When you hear the word “change” what’s your first reaction? I have two different responses to the word. First, I can feel my resistance quickly bubble up just thinking about change. Second, though definitely a fainter voice, is excitement.
No matter how hard we try to create security in our lives, we never reach that goal because life is not static. Opposites occur in every life situation, and that’s why we are reluctant to change. We want to control the situation and have it neat and tidy.
We have control and have no control over change…both exist in our lives. Life happens, and we need to react and decide how we are going to best deal with the situation. We can initiate change, for example, choose to lose weight, stop smoking, take better care of ourselves, change jobs, etc. Or we react to an external change and decide how to handle it best, so we learn and grow. Even when we choose to create a difference in our lives, there is still anxiety and unsureness that surround the change. What will happen when I make this change?
Change is always there, even if everything looks the same. When I look in the mirror each day, my body still looks the same, yet thousands of cells are rapidly changing.
I like my routines, but my habits also dry me up, make life boring and call for a change. Then I make a change, and it’s new and exciting, and I’m feeling proud of myself that I made a change. Eventually, that change becomes a part of my everyday living, and then I’m back again to routine or habit. That’s what change is about, what is new become regular and so we need to add some new stuff again.
The lesson I’ve learned is that change, whether small or large, is always a part of my life.
The challenging part is embracing change and making it a friend and not a foe.
How does one switch their perception and become excited about even a small change?
Change makes us feel alive. In crisis situations, we toss our “normal” living up in the air to see where we land. I realized when I was going through my separation from a long-term marriage that I had become a statistic. Though it was traumatic, I also had an opportunity to see myself differently. Today, when I’m reluctant to change my world, I remember how raw, excited and alive I was at that point in my life and how I saw different possibilities for myself. That’s what change can provide for us. Yes, the scary, unknown is there and so is the “world of possibilities” there for our choosing.
Even small changes can make us proud. I will preface this with “not everyone feels this way,” but I believe that TV is a waste of time. I watch it. Whenever I mix things up and do something different at night and keep the TV off, I feel good about myself because I’m following what is essential to me.
Today, take a new route to work, store or a friend’s house.
Start using your “change muscles.”
How do you handle change in your life? Do you embrace it or resist it whenever you can? When you do decide to create a change in your life, how do you feel about yourself? If you are resisting change in your life, how do you feel?
Women’s Group Topics
Small changes add so many opportunities to feel good about ourselves. Discuss the changes in your life and share the issues but also what you gained from the change.
“To fully enjoy the ‘richness’ of our lives, we need to stop long enough to visit with ourselves.”