in Personal Growth | posted by Pat
Then I thought, “what about me?” How do I show myself that I love “me” and I’m special in my life?
What flashed in my mind immediately is that I’m tolerating too much in my life. How do I know that I’m tolerating “stuff?” I can tell by listening to my internal thoughts of frustrations or the complaints that I express to others.
I started to think about what I was tolerating in my life. For starters, I wandered around my home and listened to all the shooting thoughts about what isn’t right. No home is perfect, and yet I’m tolerating many things by not acting on them.
For example, I have a small office, and the space is plenty for my needs. If I look to the right, piles of paper and behind me, books, papers and other stuff that needs to be put away. My home is relatively organized, but I tolerate too many books and papers. If I open the closet in the extra bedroom, I cringe at all of the junk piled there. It’s distracting because I get annoyed with myself, feel a bit overwhelmed by the visual display of clutter, and yet, I live with it. Why do I tolerate something that doesn’t make me feel good?
Tolerating clutter, behaviors, other people, demanding bosses all take away a part of our lives. Yes, the thought may be with us for a brief moment, but it tears off a small chunk of well-being by tolerating the situation. Multiply that by other annoyances, frustrations and by the end of the day, no wonder we are exhausted and feeling a little beat up by living. The same things that we were annoyed about yesterday are still there today…we get to compound the tears in our lives.
Today is different. Maybe because it’s Valentine’s Day and it reminds me to love myself fully. To stand behind that thought, I have to acknowledge that I’m tired of tolerating what isn’t working in my life. How do I channel my tiredness of tolerating too much to creating solutions to move forward? Here are some thoughts I’ve created which may be helpful for anyone.
Most Important – Create Awareness
Action – Small Steps
No magic wand can create massive change; instead, the power resides in our conviction that we can make changes in our lives.
Starting small is perfect for building momentum in our lives. If there is a junk drawer that you have wanted to clean up, do the draw. If it’s overwhelming even to do that, then set a timer for 20 minutes and clean as much as you can in 20 minutes. Set yourself up for success. Success creates more success.
What am I doing on Valentine’s Day to nurture and create well-being in my day? I am going to build my master list of tolerances and then select one small thing to change today and nurture my well-being.
Love to hear your thoughts on this topic…share your thoughts about tolerating what doesn’t work for you.
Women’s Group Topics
Women are known to tolerate, especially behaviors of others. Brainstorm with each other all of the areas that you feel you are tolerating in your life. No judgments here; instead, it’s a perfect way to unload your thoughts and start clearing up the clutter in your mind. You can decide to take one thing on your list and figure out a solution to no longer tolerate it.
“To fully enjoy the ‘richness’ of our lives, we need to stop long enough to visit with ourselves.”