The Gift of Self-Confidence

 Did you have low self-esteem most of your life? Maybe an undiagnosed reading disorder or someone verbally abused you during your life.

Do you have a skill you shine at – work, relationships, hobby, or writing?

Step back and evaluate your level of self-confidence. See where you can elevate it and own the gift it can give you.

Understand Your Value

Have you undervalued your skills for years, thinking you didn’t really do anything special? But one day, someone complimented you on something you did or said.

Becoming confident means beginning to recognize the value you bring to a situation. This might be your years of experience, unique gift of taste, or gentle leadership style.

It’s easy to downplay these gifts and think they don’t mean much. But self-confidence means you begin to appreciate and celebrate these beautiful qualities in yourself.

Know What You Want

The more confident you become, the easier it becomes to know your own mind. That’s because you’re no longer constantly overwhelmed by doubt, insecurity, and fear. With your mind quiet, you’re finally free to listen to your wise inner voice.

Many women don’t live happy lives simply because they don’t know what they want. This disconnect from their authentic selves means they accept situations that make them miserable and believe they can’t do anything.

But women with confidence learn to slow down and listen to their guide. They recognize their strong, beautiful, authentic self and work hard to stay in tune with it.

Discover the Ability to Dream

The ability to dream—to imagine a different life than your current one—is a rare and precious gift. It’s also a hallmark of confidence.

You can imagine anything you want when you’re confident in yourself and your abilities. You might be happily married with three kids and suddenly discover that you’re dreaming of living a nomadic lifestyle for the next year in an RV with your children.

Confidence doesn’t mean you’ll wave a magic wand and make this happen tomorrow. But it means you’ll have the courage to look at your dream and say, “I have the power to make this a reality!”

Embrace Laughing at Yourself

The more confident you become, the easier you laugh at yourself. That’s because when you’re optimistic, you’re no longer focused on your insecurities and busy fearing that everyone will see you messed up.

Instead, you’ll give yourself the grace to be human, acknowledge your mistake, and laugh it off. When you’re fully confident in who you are, you’re free to make all the mistakes you need to.

Surround Yourself with Community

There’s something about an authentic, confident woman that invites community. People want to be like her, hear how she did it, and feel that confidence rub off on them. So, they come close, and they gather around her.

The truth is that like attracts like within the universe. This is especially true when it comes to friendship. The more confident and authentic you are, the more you’ll attract friends who are also convinced and authentic.

Find True Happiness

As your confidence grows, you may also notice another unexpected gift: happiness. The more confident you are, the less time you spend scrolling through an app filled with pretty pictures, wishing that were your life.

Instead, confidence allows you to appreciate what you have and rest secure in knowing who you are. A confident woman recognizes that no one’s life is “Instagram perfect,” but she doesn’t try to make hers like that.

Be Fully Present

Nothing is as powerful for your mindfulness as confidence. Since you’re no longer distracted by what everyone else might be thinking of you, you’re free to be fully present right where you are.

Instead of worrying that others are judging you because you are not the perfect mom, writer, dancer, or anything else that makes you think you need to be perfect, you can focus on enjoying your child, having fun creating with words, and dancing around the room fully enjoying the movement and the music.

Part of being self-confident means releasing the weight of everyone else’s opinions, regardless of whether you agree with them. You listen to your inner compass and trust that she’s a smart guide who knows the way. The beauty of doing this is that not only will you feel free, but you’ll also appreciate your life as it happens.

Explore New Challenges

When you lack confidence, challenges are something you must hide from. They might reveal a weak spot, a vulnerability, or one of your insecurities. You work hard only to take on tasks at which you know you’ll shine.

As a result, you never get to explore new challenges, experience the thrill of tackling a vast new project at work or home, or step outside of the tiny box of “things you are good at.”

But what if you did? What if you discovered that despite what your high school art teacher said, you can paint a beautiful mural on your bedroom wall? What if you found that you have a talent for refashioning old furniture?

When you focus on building your confidence, you can look a challenge in the eye and boldly take it on. Your confidence doesn’t mean you’ll automatically excel at everything you do, but it does mean you’re willing to step out and try new things.

Recognize Your Resilience

Perhaps the most beautiful gift of developing self-confidence is the recognition of one’s own resilience. Resilience is the ability to face disasters, setbacks, and problems—not only to face them but to overcome them with grace and grit.

Resilience doesn’t mean that you never get tired or overwhelmed. Sometimes, problems will arise that you have to put down for a day or two before you tackle them fresh again. That’s completely normal.

Resilience means not giving up. You keep showing up to face the problem, obstacle, or setback again and again. You show up because you know deep inside that you’re a tough warrior who can win the battle.

Isn’t It Time You Opened This Gift?

If self-confidence is a gift, then you must accept it. You must lovingly grant yourself this gift as the giver and openly receive this gift as the receiver. Lift your hands high and say, “I give myself the gift of self-confidence.”

Pause and wait a moment in silence. With your hands still lifted, say out loud, “I accept the gift of self-confidence from myself.”

By doing this, you’re sending a powerful message to the Universe that you want more self-confidence and are ready to accept and own it!

Your Thoughts

Today, how would you evaluate your level of confidence?    Do you struggle with recognizing what you offer to the world, or do enjoy sharing who you are with others?

Women’s Group Topics

Each person in the group has a different level of self-confidence.  Have each person discuss how they feel about themselves – share their strengths and weaknesses, and decide what weaknesses are not that important now.

Be well,

“To fully enjoy the ‘richness’ of our lives, we need to stop long enough to visit with ourselves.”
(Pat Brill)

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