in Personal Growth | posted by Pat
As I listen to myself and others, there seems to be a theme of constant struggle. Is struggling in life a natural human experience or do we create it for ourselves with our inner dialogues and choices that we make? Is it that we are not creative enough to figure out how to stop struggling?
There are so many areas where struggling seems to permeate: finances, health, weight, relationships, education, parenting, and juggling all of the many different compartments of our lives.
What made me think of this topic was that I struggle with follow through in some areas of my life. I relatively organized so don’t struggle there, and with my relationships at this age I’m quite relaxed, yet speak to me about weight or finances, and then we are in a different arena.
Today, in my Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) session, I tapped on the various areas that I struggle with following through. I put the word “tired” down and this served up a significant emotional response….I was tired of struggling in these areas of my life.
The absurdity of struggling is that once you learn how to struggle, it’s difficult to let it go. How silly is that?
When we are struggling, we are reacting to the situation and feel that there are no solutions. Reacting creates drama, and consequently, we feel overwhelmed by the whole process of finding a solution. There are always solutions to every problem, but first, we need to let go of the need to struggle.
As I was tapping, I started to relax more and let go of the tension around the struggles. Part of the battle is trying to get or do something different, and because of those thoughts, my body tenses up and my mind become blocked.
If I let go and trust that I will find a solution, I release a lot of energy. I may need to cry a few tears in the process, but the release alone is powerful.
Byron Katie, “Loving What Is” believes that suffering is optional. If you follow “The Work,” as she calls it, part of her process is to ask “Is it true?” to all of our beliefs under our struggles.
What do we need to do?
Question those areas where we struggle. Start to look under the tabletop of “struggling” and see what legs hold up our need to struggle. For example, if financial struggles plague you and no matter what you do it never goes away, then what are your thoughts supporting your belief that you must struggle with your finances.
I touched ever so lightly on the topic of struggling. What are your thoughts? Have you done something different that helped you give up the need to struggle? Do you believe we can change our struggles and live a joyful life?
Share your thoughts as it helps others.
Women’s Group Topics
Women share easily the areas where they struggle and we vent or complain is a better word, and don’t stop and say “is there a solution” here for me. Air out your struggles with each other and then start brainstorming ways, small and significant, that you can change the direction of your current struggles and release the need to continue on the same path in your lives.
“To fully enjoy the ‘richness’ of our lives, we need to stop long enough to visit with ourselves.”