Holidays have many expectations built into them.    We are supposed to be happy and especially with the family feel an abundance of love all around us.   It doesn’t work out that way most of the time. Instead, we get small hits of love with a hefty dose of work and craziness.    We keep doing it no matter what.


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A little indulgence isn’t the end of the world.   It all about how we think.  If we tell ourselves we can’t control our eating, guess what, we can’t.    I told myself that I did indulge in too much food, and now I’m back on my high-fiber eating plan.  It was fun to eat whatever I wanted for a short period, but what I want now is to be healthy and sane.  It’s all about choices!


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Oh, all the drama that gets played out each day in our lives. The stories we spin about what is happening to us or others permeates and consumes a lot of energy. Usually, the stories we tell are not gleeful but rather full of “woo.” We repeat the same storylines day in and day out and don’t know how to change the headlines. Where does all this drama come from and why do we want it? Does it make us feel more alive?


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It’s not that we are not sincere about our intentions; rather we don’t follow through. I don’t know about you, but I carry around in my head excess baggage of good intentions, along with the negative feeling about myself when I don’t follow through on what I said I wanted to do. I know I share this issue with many people around me, and it doesn’t make me feel better about myself


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We don’t realize just how many precious minutes, hours and days are frittered away with habits that don’t serve us. Little by little also captures the slow death we feel when we squander our lives. How many of us feel deep inside “is this all there is?” What about the quiet voice inside of us that wants to try something new and yet we squish it down with our behavior of wasting time.


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What “same old, same old” means to me is that we don’t want to think about our life, rather short cut our answers to keep a distance from others and ourselves. It blocks any interest on the part of the receiver. It’s similar to the word “fine” when asked, “how are you?” We all fall into these shortcuts, but I believe we do a disservice to ourselves when we send those words into the Universe. We block ourselves from ever having something different in our lives because we already said we weren’t going to take the effort to think.


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I decided it’s time to look in my ‘guilt’ closet to see what is outdated and just doesn’t fit anymore. We all have a ‘guilt’ closet where we automatically open the door and take out our favorite guilt thoughts. It’s hard to let go of our guilt because we have invested a lot of time believing in it. Guilt is like a comfortable old pair of pants that we wear even if it doesn’t look that great.


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