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Where Would We Be Without Our Stories

August 22nd, 2010 in Health, Personal Growth

Last Thursday, after a long day at work, I walked to the bus stop eager to get there by 6:00 pm.  Why the excitement?  I wanted to settle in and listen to The Aware Show.   I usually read my email or a book while on the bus, so doing something different is always fun.   

Lisa Garr hosts a radio show called The Aware Show where she brings speakers from self-growth, spirituality or health areas and interviews them.   She is currently hosting a teleseminar series and as part of this series she had on Jennifer McLean.   Jennifer is an author, healer and entrepreneur. 

The hour long bus ride went quickly as Jennifer spoke about energy.  There was one exercise that excited and helped me immensely.  I learned about a tool to help me let go of my stories.   What do I mean by stories?  We all have stories that we tell others that reflect who we believe we are.  Most of them are based on struggles, hardships and all are past experiences.    The reason these stories are so powerful is because we reinforce every time we tell them that life is difficult or someone betrayed us.

It’s not that I haven’t heard before how our past stories influence our well-being today.   I have many times, but for some reason the exercise that Jennifer had us all do had a significant impact on me.  I’ve been aware that I am more than my childhood or a bad relationship, yet I was not doing anything with the awareness except hold it in my head.   During the exercise I was able to distance myself and in my gut I felt a big release of tension because I didn’t have to carry around my stories anymore.  So what was the exercise?

Jennifer did an exercise of writing down all of our stories.   What stories do we tell others that describe to them who we are?  We all have childhood stories and most of them are usually supporting dysfunctional relationships with our parents or adults in our lives.   What about work stories…who does what to whom.  Relationship stories on how someone mistreated or betrayed us.  Financial struggles.  We know those stories because in our head we think “why me?” 

Why Do We Tell Our Stories?

It got me thinking…why do we tell our stories over and over?  What are we seeking when we tell the stories?  Do humans connect better around our troubled stories than our happy stories?  Are we afraid to be happy as it may go away?  I spoke with someone and she thought we tell our stories because there is a void when we connect with others and we use our stories to connect.    For me, I believe it is about belonging to a tribe, connecting with others, sympathy, empathy, and recognition. 

Benefits of Letting Go Of My Stories

Jennifer gave us a few minutes to write down all of the stories that each of us carry around.  When I looked at what I wrote on the paper, I felt compassion for the Pat who had to deal with all those experiences.  I also felt relieved, lighter, could breathe easier and I felt a smile in my body.    My stories were on the paper and not in the baggage I was carrying around with me.

It’s part of healing and we all need to heal the old wounds that thread through our lives.   The hurts leave small and large reactions on the trails of our journey in life and many times this stuff blocks our ability to move forward.   By writing down the stories I saw them for what they really were in my life…stories.  Stories are not real, just descriptions of what happened or anticipations of what will happen.  They no longer exist except in my mind.  

This simple exercise of writing down my stories left room for me to feel empathy and compassion for myself that I had to deal with difficult situations in my life, but I also felt free to let them go and not be attached to my stories.  This freedom created space for me to see the good stuff that often happens in my life.   Like listening to this radio show.

Thanks Lisa and Jennifer — what a wonderful way to commute home.

Pat

“To fully enjoy the ‘richness’ of our lives, we need to stop long enough to visit with ourselves.”
(Pat Brill)

 

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2 Responses to “Where Would We Be Without Our Stories”

  1. Debbie @ Happy Maker Says:

    I tell stories in hopes that it will help someone else not make the same mistakes that I have. To me these stories are learning experinces and when we tell them there are things to learn from them. Just like studing history. We can learn from it.
    Debbie

  2. Pat Says:

    Debbie
    True…it all depends on our intentions. Sounds like you want to help others.

    For me, sometimes, stories reflect my level of suffering, or to impress others. I just know I feel so much better when I tell the stories with my best intentions showing up, and let go of the struggle stories.

    Thanks for sharing.
    Pat


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