What happens when a good friend hurts you? How do you feel? I had to deal with a situation recently where a friend was harsh (from my perspective) and frustrated with me while we worked on a project together. I was so taken back and hurt by her comments. This is a dear friend and yet I wanted to walk away because I didn’t know what to do with my reactions.
As I listen to others around me, I hear a common theme that the nature of life is to struggle. Do you believe that life is mainly filled with struggles? What about the thought that we create our own struggles and life has little to do with our struggles?
What Is Struggle
The definition on Dictionary.com is to: contend with an adversary or opposing force; to contend resolutely with a task, problem, etc.; strive: to struggle for existence.
Areas Where We Struggle
There are several broad areas where most of us bump into struggle: relationships, weight, finances, and work.
Last Thursday, after a long day at work, I walked to the bus stop eager to get there by 6:00 pm. Why the excitement? I wanted to settle in and listen to The Aware Show. I usually read my email or a book while on the bus, so doing something different is always fun.
Lisa Garr hosts a radio show called The Aware Show where she brings speakers from self-growth, spirituality or health areas and interviews them. She is currently hosting a teleseminar series and as part of this series she had on Jennifer McLean. Jennifer is an author, healer and entrepreneur.
Can you remember the last time you were kind to another person? What did you say or do to show your kindness? Did you celebrate a special occasion with them, listen to them, help them with a project or give them a compliment?
Kindness is a great attribute to own and some people naturally express good will to others. Most of us are busy with our lives and kindness never seems to be a top priority. It’s not that we are mean, rather our busyness takes over and we don’t consciously think about showing kindness to another person. We just have too much to do. What if there were benefits to this “kindness” thing.
When we think of clutter, we usually visualize a packed or messy physical space. Rarely do we give much thought to the emotional clutter we hold onto on a daily basis. This undefined clutter actually blocks us from moving forward in what we want to do. This clutter automatically says “NO” to life.
We all share many common threads in our lives. Clutter is one of them. Like it or not, we hold on to “things” that burden and weigh us down. In this Universe, there is stuff hanging out taking up space and energy. Time to recycle or destroy.
Four possible areas where clutter accumulates:
Physical – our homes, cars and bodies
Emotional – our thoughts, feelings and reactions (actions)
Financial – our spending habits
Spiritual – our never-ending desire for connection and purpose
I’m writing an e-book (electronic book or digital book) with my business partner for a website that addresses content for women. We both took separate chapters to write on and my chapter was on the Visionary. The visionary is the person who is willing to push forward into the future with their dreams and make them a reality.
I do believe that we are all visionaries, though we can easily get overwhelmed by the details that support our dreams. The e-book is all about helping a person find a way to move their dream into a reality.
As I listen to myself and to others, there seems to be a theme of constant struggle. Is struggling in life a natural human experience or do we create it for ourselves with our inner dialogues and choices that we make? Is it that we are not creative enough to figure out how to stop struggling?
There are so many areas where struggling seems to permeate: finances, health, weight, relationships, education, parenting, and juggling all of the many different compartments of our lives.
With all of the self-improvement books out there, the one underlying foundational advice is that one must love themselves. Sounds great, doesn’t it? Yet, how does one know how to love one’s self and if we don’t, how do we go about learning to love ourselves.
I’m a self-growth junkie and consequently read numerous books on improving my self-esteem, self-love and whatever else you want to call it. Yet today, though I definitely respect myself more, I still work on this “self-love” theme. Maybe it’s really the essential act of our lives…learning to love ourselves in a world that doesn’t support self-love.
I have my own business so have a different perspective about entrepreneurs. In the past, I was an employee of an owner-occupied business and today this is my business niche. I definitely prefer being a consultant rather than an employee.
How do you deal with an owner or a difficult manager who is unreasonable, demanding and driven and expects you to be an entrepreneur when you want to be an employee and have a life of your own outside of the business? I know this last sentence quickly sums up the feelings most employees have when working in this type of environment. Now, not all owners create unreasonable expectations, but if you are in one, you understand unreasonable.